Deep Bonds: Conversation Starters Pt.2

26. Who is the most interesting person you’ve ever met?

Discovering who captivates her should give you an idea of how well she’ll fit into your life and vice versa.

27. Is homelessness a problem in our country? Should people try to help them?

Not only will this tell you if she has compassion for others, if she has a well-thought-out answer, but you’ll also know she genuinely cares about social issues.

29. Do you like trying new things? Have you tried anything new lately?

How adventurous is she? Let’s hope her level of spontaneity matches yours! You can even make a pact to try something new together every month.

30. What’s more your style: a day at the beach or a campfire under the stars?

They both sound like fun. Why not suggest doing whatever one she picks together for a first (or next) date.

31. Do you believe God exists?

Shared faith can be a powerful thing. It’s always good to believe in the same things if you’re hoping for a serious relationship.

32. Is it important to go to church?

If she does believe in God, this is a good one to ask to find out if she’s serious about her faith.

34. Have you ever had a life-changing experience?

Not everyone has had such a defining moment, but those who have always have a great story to tell.

35. Have you ever had a brush with death?

This may or may not be something she wants to talk about. Don’t push her if she’s experienced this but doesn’t want to share the details.

36. Do experiences shape you as a person or do you think people shape their experiences?

Does she consider herself to be the mistress of her own fate? Or does she think something bigger is at play?

37. Is true wealth a state of mind or is it just about the size of your bank account?

This question should reveal what her priorities are and how important — or unimportant — she considers wealth.

38. Is it ever hard for you to accept defeat?

Is she stubborn or does she give up easily? Is she a good match for you in this area?

39. What are the most important social issues today?

It’s always good to know what the girl you like cares about and to see if you share similar opinions on current issues.

40. Do you follow politics? Do you try to stay informed?

Can she tell you all about her elected officials or is she uninterested in government? This question definitely gives you a good chance to see how well informed she is

41. Is it important for people to vote during elections?

Does she take her civic duty seriously or is she completely uninterested in politics?

42. Do you think it’s possible to find true love more than once in a lifetime?

Is she a romantic, a realist or a mixture of the two? This will tell you.

43. Should a couple live together first or wait until marriage?

What are her views on cohabitation? This question will tell you what she expects should your relationship progress to that level.

44. Are you shy, outgoing or somewhere in between?

Are you the same or is this a case of opposites attracting?

45. Do you consider marriage to be the ultimate goal in a relationship?

It’s always good to know what she’s hoping will come out or romantic relationships — that way you can make sure you both ultimately want the same thing.

46. Have you ever said “I love you” first in a relationship?

Does she fall in love easily or is she more guarded?

47. When is the last time that you laughed so hard you cried and why?

Knowing what makes her laugh will help you to understand her better.

48. What do you consider more essential to a relationship: physical intimacy or emotional intimacy?

Both are important, of course, but what can’t she do without?

49. Do you hope to get married and have children one day?

This is vital to know, especially if you have strong opinions on both subjects.

50. What’s the most important lesson a parent can teach a child?

Knowing what she’d want her child to learn will also tell you what values she thinks are most important in herself and others.